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The Shocking Truth About Hook-Up Culture

How physical touch is disconnecting us emotionally.

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The hookup culture is more prevalent than ever; society is pushing this ideology and identifying it as the way forward. In a community that is normalizing sexual relationships which do not ‘mean anything,’ it is far from the truth.

The most damaging fact about this culture is that society makes us believe it’s the way forward to liberate women when in fact, it does nothing but the opposite. Women are encouraged to mimic male behavior regarding sexual relationships to get back at them or, worse, believe it makes us equal.

It is more common for women than men to find casual hookups unsatisfying as women are wired differently than men. It is a biological fact that women are more emotional, and instead of honoring this power, we are training ourselves out of it. Women are trying to be like men, a problem that takes away from our most unique qualities.

Studies show that engaging in meaningless hookups leads women to feel mentally distressed. One of the reasons women are trying to maintain this image of casual sex is because men have been doing it for decades and have not been labeled negatively the way women have. Yes, Women should be able to do what they want and not be shamed for it, but engaging in empty sexual relations because of this reason doesn’t take away from the fact that women will still be regarded differently.

Are we expressing or repressing?

Many women get into these relations hoping it will change the man’s view of them and that they will commit in the long run. This is where women end up feeling worthless because they have given themselves to these men who want nothing more than sex. This issue leads women to repress their exact needs and settle for less to maintain that sexual aspect.

One-way women subconsciously play a part in giving men what they want is not showing our emotions. We know many men dislike emotional vulnerability, so we downplay ours to make them comfortable. We get defensive and run away when we start developing feelings because it’s easier to avoid than risk getting rejected.

This is exhausting as these sexual relations, which lack emotional intimacy, become a power play. It becomes a game of who can act the most unbothered, which is pointless for both parties. Why don’t we seek emotional and sexual relations rather than purely sexual ones?

I believe a part of this is down to our society being lonely and damaged from past relationships. We have convinced ourselves that we don’t require much as we would rather have some sort of connection than none at all. We would rather be ‘on the same page’ than navigate the complex parts of a relationship.

As a feminist, I believe women should do exactly what they want. However, I fear this new image of ‘liberation’ pushes women to think freedom lies in futile connections. I fear that women who do not want to engage in casual hookups may be seen as ‘less feminist’ and that women are dismissing their emotional needs due to society labeling hookup culture as ‘harmless.’

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