You might think I will give you beauty tips on looking extra feminine. If that is so, I’m here to tell you that beauty has nothing to do with physical appearance.
Did you think I would give tips on how to have your waist snatched or what type of makeup you should wear? You might’ve even thought of a workout routine. Sorry to break it to you, but there are no Guru tips here.
What is even demure?
In today’s society, the word beautiful has transitioned to society’s criteria of beauty.
Any little trend motivates us to change our aesthetic to fit society’s beauty standards, such as the “Demure” trend that TikTok star Jool Lebron created. Posting a video saying how demure, cutesy, and mindful she looks when going to a job interview influenced girls to follow the “clean girl” aesthetic.
Suddenly, everybody wants to be in their demure “cutesy feminine” era, focusing on looks and not even knowing what demure means.
Demure is not about aesthetics, as society has made it. The actual definition is to be serious, reserved, and modest. It doesn’t mean to change your aesthetic rather than your attitude.
Celine Lingg’s book blog “Physical Appearance Isn’t Everything” says:
I realise the reason that people are busy minding their physical appearance is that the talks of the society that influence and urge people to be pretty and handsome.
Celine Lingg
We are so worried about meeting society’s definition of beauty that we forget that true beauty comes from the inner self. Let’s stop trying to be the most attractive girl in the room because society says so. Focus on having true inner beauty.
Win your beauty approval
We, girls, love to doll up, and there’s nothing wrong with that. But when our clothes and makeup shine more than our character to win people’s or boys’ approval, we become just followers of superficial trends.
Oprah ‘Zip’ Bradford’s article “Stop Letting Society Define Your Beauty” demonstrates the importance of making rules for your beauty.
Your life should not revolve around the obsession of being what others want you to be.
Oprah ‘Zip’ Bradford
If you’re doing that surgery but in debt or buying crazy expensive clothes to win people’s approval, you’re forgetting that your approval is the one that matters most.
You can be beautiful by radiating your heart, with or without surgeries, designer clothes, or lip fillers. As Bradford says, “Self-love is the best love. Screw what society says!”
As long as you’ve won your approval, you’ve already won, baby girl. Don’t put your physical appearance on a pedestal. Put your standards and character first.
Beauty: A useless assumption
Striving to be the most attractive girl in the room is a useless goal. This goal creates competition with other women. A 2020 meta-analysis found that women experience jealousy based on their female rival’s attractiveness, according to Psych Central.
Do you see why it’s useless? Jealousy and toxic competition are not qualities of a beautiful woman. Yet many of us spend hours in the mirror fixing ourselves, not our attitudes.
Why not strive to be the nicest girl in the room? Or the most wise beyond our years?
Society has taught us to compete with each other to feed our egos. This goal has broken up relationships, friendships, and even self-esteem. Don’t give in to this ignorant goal.
You are your competition
The other women in the room shouldn’t be your competition. Your biggest competition is the person staring at you in the mirror. In Gary Greeno’s motivational speech, “Your biggest competition is you,” he says:
The question you should ask every day is this: ‘Who am I becoming, and am I becoming someone who is better than I was yesterday? Are you becoming a better person of character?’
Gary Greeno
When we stop following superficial trends, we start focusing on relevant qualities of ourselves. As a woman, your only competition is yourself. Our goal should be to become strong women.
Only you have the power to be a beautiful woman, so smile at life and give the world your best version.
Beautiful is being allies
True beauty shows how women support one another. Instead of competing to be the most attractive woman in the room, why not be all beautiful together? Let’s be allies instead of enemies.
Motherly Article states that because, as women, sisterhood is the fabric of our existence. It is the pillar of our foundation and the firmness of our being.
This TikTok video shows a podcast of a motivational speaker advising women, saying:
One piece of advice for women watching this podcast, be kind to one another. When I think of the women that I’ve worked with. I’ve worked with women who have not wanted you to succeed and I’ve worked with women that just wanted to make you bloom and grow and be one of those. Be one of those women that brings out the best in other women.
@pivotalconversations
After hearing this advice, I’ve realized that being a woman who makes other women bloom and grow is the best gift another woman can receive.
So be that girl who waters other women to bloom.
Girls’ girl, as social media calls it. Allies. Teammates. Sisterhood. Whatever you want to call it. Let’s bring our beauty out by supporting one another. The makeup, designer items, fillers, Botox, etc., do not make you beautiful.
I’m sorry that society has lied to you and brainwashed many of us to think this way.
Perfect nails, flat stomachs, tiny waist, and flawless makeup do not define your beauty. That is not it, sister.
Beyond what the eye could see
Women’s beauty goes beyond what the eye can see. It’s not the clothing we wear, the figure we have, or the hairstyle. Our beauty comes from what makes up who we are.
TikTok user @rnizukoo shared a video of herself, captioning it: “Maturing is realizing that beauty comes from the inside. No matter how physically attractive u look.”
The moment you decide to let your heart radiate more than your looks is when you know that physical beauty doesn’t count when you have an ugly heart.
BE THAT GIRL.
Here are some tips to be the woman whose inner beauty speaks louder than looks.
Be kind.
Treat people with respect and kindness. What worth is it to be physically attractive if you treat people like they’re below you? Ugly attitudes reflect ugly intentions.
Make worthwhile connections.
Make connections that bloom your character and not just feed your ego. Connect with girls that will make you grow positively.
Invest in yourself.
Don’t just buy things to make you physically appealing. Invest in your education and knowledge. Beauty is intelligence and wisdom.
Confidence.
Know where your ground stands, and don’t let fools’ opinions tear you down. They don’t even know who you are.
Empower other women.
Lift other women when they’re down.
Don’t enjoy in other women’s mistakes; you never know when you will be there. A beautiful woman extends her hand to another girl. We don’t ignore a cry for help or criticism (only ugly girls do that).
Hopefully, after reading these tips, you will understand that beauty has nothing to do with looks. Beauty goes beyond what our human eyes can see.
