Nobody warns you that the scariest part of University isn’t all the assignments, the group projects, or even the rent payments. It’s the silence after graduation. The moment when all of the structure disappears, the deadlines vanish, and suddenly it’s just you, a degree, and a big question looming over your head: “What Now?“
It’s a completely normal and valid feeling – and I get it. I turned 20 in June, and I’m about to head into my final year of University too. Do I know exactly where I’ll be a year from now? Sort of…but mostly, not at all. And that’s okay.
What matters now is staying present and actually enjoying these final moments, instead of letting the thought of the future steal them away. So, here’s my (unprofessional!) advice on navigating the thought of adulting, practising self-care, and surviving the fact that none of us really have it all figured out.
Your last year isn’t a waiting room
Listen, the future loves to live rent-free in our heads. One minute you could be enjoying having drinks with your friends, and the next thing you know, you’re spiralling about job applications or money. The trick isn’t to banish those thoughts (because really, you can’t), but to learn how to stay mindful and in the moment. Here are a few things you can do to manage the anxiety.
Journaling
Putting your thoughts down on paper can really help, even if it’s messy and unstructured. It doesn’t have to be a diary or anything special. Even bullet points will work.
Going to the gym or moving your body
This is less about chasing a six-pack and more about just burning off that nervous energy. A workout or even just a walk in the park with your favourite podcast can quiet that noise in your head.
Making time for your friends
It can help you realise that you’re all in the same boat! Grab a coffee, start a new hobby together, or go out – it will really take your mind off things.
Finding a part-time job or a side hustle
Something that gives you a routine and takes you out of that ‘Uni Bubble’. Bonus points if you’re making some extra cash too!
Romanticising the little things
The walk to campus or a study date? Make it fun and you’ll start to enjoy it more.
i love romanticising life, there’s beauty in every corner.. pic.twitter.com/WqKooGJzlj
— rawan (@essalss_) August 24, 2025
The myth of the 5-year plan
Students (and young adults, in general) are constantly weighed down by this unspoken pressure, and it’s only amplified by social media.
It may feel like everyone is racing ahead. Landing graduate jobs, moving to their dream cities and affording endless holidays. What we don’t see is the continuous stream of rejection emails, the panic, and the late-night doubts.
Remember, there is no deadline. Your pace is entirely your own, and the feeling of ‘falling behind’ doesn’t truly mean anything. Failure and setbacks are just a part of life, and there’s so much to learn when you’re moving forward and staying resilient.
When you’re getting closer to graduating, and it may feel like you’re spiralling, take a step back.
Mel Robbins is an American author, podcast host, and lawyer. She’s extremely successful and recognised for many things, including her podcast, which was launched in 2022. A few months ago, she released an episode titled “If You’re Feeling Behind, Listen to This.”
I would highly recommend listening to or watching some of her stuff; it’s very insightful, and there’s definitely something interesting there for everyone!
Comparison is the thief of joy
I feel like this one is rather obvious. We live in a world where we compare ourselves to everyone, and sometimes, it may even be unintentional. This can also be true for many students, who are surrounded by tons of different people.
As someone who has often fallen victim to the toxic comparison culture of today, I understand how hard it can be. It’s definitely taken me a long time to develop a healthier approach to this and to overcome the feeling as a whole.
Realistically, you never know what people are going through. Social media is a highlight reel, and to put it simply, I know many people who are suffering, and just not sharing that part of their life.
You are not alone. Everybody has goals and aspirations, and everybody also has worries and troubles. Your life is unique and unlike any other life, so you have to make sure you focus on what’s important for you and what makes YOU happy. Not anybody else.
Here are some questions to ask yourself when you feel like you are comparing yourself to others:
- What does this comparison tell me about what I value or desire?
- Am I tired, stressed, or going through something right now?
- What have I accomplished recently that I am proud of?
- What small step can I take towards some of my goals instead of focusing on someone else’s?
Make sure to think about the reason you may be comparing yourself to others. Part of the reason you may be feeling like this is because deep down, there’s something that’s making you unhappy! Maybe there is something you need to work on, or a small thing that you can do to make you proud of yourself. There is nothing wrong with being ambitious.
Some food for your brain
Finally, I want to recommend some reading and podcasts that can help you manage your anxiety or your thoughts when it comes to thinking about life after University.
A lot of these books can be purchased online, in physical form, and on Kindle. The podcasts are available to listen to on most streaming platforms.
First up, it’s the viral New York Times Bestseller, and one that I’m sure you have seen all over social media.
Written by Mel Robbins and her daughter, this TikTok sensation ‘self-help’ book is all about letting others be themselves without trying to control their actions. The book blends personal anecdotes, scientific research and advice from experts to bring this theory to life, and many readers have found this book freeing and relatable. Give it a read; it may be able to ease your thoughts.
A podcast (that’s also my personal favourite!) that I want to recommend is not necessarily ‘self-help’ but does cover a lot of self-improvement topics, is ‘Anything Goes’ hosted by Emma Chamberlain.
The American social media personality uses this podcast to discuss a wide range of topics, from advice sessions to her favourite products and her opinions on controversial subjects. I love this one, and I’m certain that everyone can find an episode that they can relate to.
Next, I recommend a slightly older book by psychologist and professor Susan Nolen-Hoeksema. It’s called ‘Women Who Think Too Much’ and it’s covers topics such as why women overthink, how to stop this, and how to reclaim your life back.
It’s both research-based and practical, written in an easy style, with exercises and examples from real women. The reviews are pretty good on platforms such as Amazon and Goodreads, and many say the book is validating and informative.
Another really great podcast is NPR’s award-winning ‘Life Kit’ hosted by Marielle Segarra, a reporter. The show is appropriate for all ages and delves into all sorts of topics.
From dealing with money problems and mental health to talking about technology and confidence, you have an array of episodes all at your disposal. Definitely check this one out!
Finally, I want to recommend you one more book, by the name of ‘The Mountain is You’.
Written by author Brianna West, this bestselling self-help book is all about self-sabotage, emotional intelligence, transformation and healing.
It has over 100k ratings over on Goodreads, and the majority are 5-star! Give this one a try if you want to turn pain into purpose and become the best version of yourself.
Graduating thoughts
So there you have it. My top tips for staying present at University while navigating the fear and uncertainty of what comes next. Whatever you’re feeling, please know it’s completely normal.
Take care of yourself and make time for things that bring you joy. It’s far too easy to get lost in all of the deadlines and assignments. Surround yourself with supportive people and good friends, and remind yourself that you are never truly alone.
Whatever path you choose, or even if you’re unsure of the path at all, trust that things will fall into place.
And if you’re eagerly counting down the days to graduation, I’ve heard post-grad life is pretty amazing!
